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The
Bridezilla Syndrome: Do You Have It?
Ten Ways to Avoid All the BS!
In
a fast-paced world of wedding planning, stress levels are high; immune
systems are low; and over the course of the past 20 years, brides
have transmitted, what has become a bridal epidemic of our time.
The number of victims has steadily increased; and to date, there is
no cure. It's been dubbed various clinical names: Multiple Personality
Disorder, Schizophrenia, Temporary Insanity. But in the world of matrimony,
anyone who's been exposed - fiancés, family, friends, and victims
themselves - this broadening illness has been commonly termed "Bridezilla
Syndrome" or "BS."
A contagious condition, BS has become more prominent and has plagued
today's busy, wedding-planning woman. In a preliminary study, the
disease has spread at an alarming rate. Symptoms of victims of BS
- better known as Bridezillas - include reoccurring mood spells, bouts
with selfishness, signs of controlling behavior and feelings of meticulousness.
Unfortunately fiancés, bridal party members, friends and family
eventually fall victim to the actions and attitudes of a Bridezilla.
Research suggests that symptoms are recognized most often by the fiancé
and Maid of Honor, and are completely undetectable by the actual victim.
In some cases, a bridal party member, who having had too much alcohol
to drink, confronted the Bridezilla. Most often, an emotional, breakdown
of the victim would follow, thus intensifying her condition. In a
survey of 100 Maids of Honor, an alarming 85% said they avoided confrontation
with the victim for fear it would only exasperate the illness.
So we must ask the underlying questions: Where is all this BS coming
from? How does one know when she's full of it? Unfortunately the source
has not been found; though it is believed that it has existed since
the dawn of the institution of marriage. A short-term condition (symptoms
persist about 1-2 years depending on one's wedding date), Bridezillas
seem to have been unfairly blamed for their actions, for which some
believe they have no control, albeit their control over everything
else. In fact, it's been clinically proven that a Bridezilla actually
does have feelings - feelings of selfishness, insecurity, anxiousness
and stress!
Though it's been said there is no cure, there are ways to prevent
infection of BS. A survey of healthy brides, whom successfully planned
their weddings without contracting the disease, was conducted. Results
showed commonalities of the actions performed to avoid the disorder.
Doctors, psychologists and wedding planners strongly suggest the following
preventative therapy:
1. Keep Perspective - remind yourself that the wedding is only
one day in your life. When things get out of control, close your eyes
and remember the reason why you are planning this wedding in the first
place.
2. Don't Assume Your Groom Doesn't Want to Help - ask him what
he'd like to take responsibility for; and then let him. (note: some
grooms may follow the cliché and decline this offer.)
3. Know That You Can't Control Everything - realize this and
accept it!
4 Delegate. Delegate. Delegate - If you act like you can handle
everything, people will let you. Spread the duties.
5. Don't Sweat the Small Stuff - people won't remember whether
or not your invitations had those cute little tissues enclosed.
6. Treat The People You Cherish with Love - the wedding is
one day; your family and friends are forever.
7. Allow Others to Vent - give your fiancé, family and
bridesmaids permission to tell you when you're going off the deep-end.
8. Take the Heat - give yourself permission to hear them.
9. Do Something for Yourself Every Day - the catch is that
it must not involve the wedding.
10. No Wedding Talk After 10pm.
Although preventative therapy is available, some brides inherently
fall victim and still contract BS. But there is hope! This is not
a terminal illness. In fact in most cases, the bride has been known
to be miraculously cured once she has returned from her honeymoon.
Doctors and psychologists theorize that the change in altitude from
flying coupled with excessive levels of the love hormone, Oxytocin
counteracts the disease by boosting the immune system, thus eliminating
symptoms.
In cases of remission, the disease has been known to resurface when
a person, under certain circumstances, may be planning her wedding
again. According to research, those brides with a higher IQ score
avoided the reoccurrence of symptoms by simply eloping.
Whatever your situation, whether a Bridezilla, fiancé, friend
or family member of one -- join in the fight! With love, hope and
education, our brides of the future and their bridal parties will
have a winning chance against all the BS!
About the Author
Gina Romanello, author of Chicken
Soup for the Bride's Soul. THE PERFECT WEDDING BEGINS WITH INSPIRATION!
Romantic, humorous, touching and true. This books brings to light
the true meaning of love and commitment, whether you are newly engaged,
recently married or reflecting on the years of married bliss. Makes
the perfect bridal shower gift!
A graduate from Arizona State University with a BA in Journalism,
Gina was thrilled when given the opportunity to join the Chicken Soup
for the Kid's Soul team. Her temporary position turned into eight
years of employment in their book production department. Her position
as Executive Administrator to Patty Hansen & Irene Dunlap has
played an integral part in the compiling and marketing of Chicken
Soup for the Kid's Soul, Chicken Soup for the Preteen Soul, Christmas
Treasury for Kids, Chicken Soup for the Preteen Soul II and Chicken
Soup for the Girl's Soul. Noticing many friends and family members
endure the stress of planning a wedding, Gina saw a need for Chicken
Soup for the Bride's Soul, a Chicken Soup title sure to comfort
and enlighten a stressed-out bride planning her big day.
Visit Gina's website
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com
Footnote: Preventative Therapy of Bridezilla
Syndrome provided by www.WeddingQuestions.com
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